[Warning: There will be lots of shitty language and upsetting thoughts below---
if you're having a shitty or delicate day maybe skip this post.]
Shittiness doesn't just have the power to ruin someone's day, or year, or their career but can ruin their entire life or our whole world.
See, when we are shitty it doesn't neatly stay confined to just us and the person we are shitty to........ it splashes and goes everywhere ........ I mean EVERYWHERE!
Because Stephen Miller is a shitty person a young boy separated from his mother at the border doesn't even recognize her anymore. Because the killer was a shitty husband my high school friend Ron Goldman is dead and his sister, Kim, has spent years of her life anguished by his loss. Because Donald Trump is a shitty president world leaders have had to adjust their economies, foreign policies, and military plans because they no longer have one of their staunchest allies as a reliable partner.
SHIT SPLASH hits the person you're directly shitty to and then ripples and gets on anyone who is in their life... and so on... and so on ... and so on...
Imagine knowing Harvey Weinstein raped your friend and having to see him win award after award. Well you don't have to, there are women who can tell us how that not only affected their friend but how just knowing there was a serial-rapist in their midst changed what movies they went for, who they might be able to trust, and how they felt about the industry they had dreamed of working in. Clearly it must have been horrible for Louis CK's daughters to hear/read about the creepy things he had done but how shitty must it have been for his tv-daughters to know their director and co-star has now tainted what they spent a good portion of their young lives working on.
How sick must it have been for anyone who knew the true Cosby to see him being touted as America's Dad. He didn't just rape and ruin the lives of his victims he splashed that shit on anyone they loved or dealing with the fallout from their pain.
The butterfly effect states: a very small change in initial conditions can create a significantly different outcome. That is a delicate way of saying your shit splash can ruin things you aren't even aware of for people who are merely in your vicinity.
Splash, splash, splash!
We are all shitty at some time in our lives- heck in many of our day-to-day actions- but we can make life and our world better if we: limit how shitty we are to ourselves and others and by leaving less of a crappy-mess behind in our wake.
What can you do if you've been The Splasher?
- Map It Out: Take an inventory of your life, including your shit.
- Own your ME-anness: Take responsibility for your energy (& shit).
- End It: Stop being so shitty and clean up the mess.
- Do Good: Repair the shit you've broken.
- Create Art: Make helpful shit. 🎨💩👍
What if you've been a victim of shittiness?
Do as Oprah did... take all the shit that has happened to you and turn it into fertilizer and 🌱 🌿 🌳 GROW!